Review: Real Love Tour Seminar

Review: Real Love Tour Seminar with Tony Gaskins

The audience was full of women and very few couples. That shows that women are more interested in being the best partner they can be to their potential mate. Men may have other ways of learning these things instead of seminars because they're not here. (Miami is a difficult area so the big turnout was not surprising, there are people visiting and living in Miami from all over the world of every culture and backround, there are nearly 10 women to every male, and the cost of living is very high - all make a relationship even more challenging.)

The subject is non toxic marriage and healthy relationships.
This type of seminar is important because the is so much information out there in the self help, relationship space by authors of different cultures and backrounds. A curator is really needed to add experience and structure the information into digestible format. Once people get familiar with a speaker and learn to trust them, the information takes on a whole new meaning. Tony Gaskins is good at curating this advice especially for young african americans who are growing up in very different times without mentors and role models. They may not get as much exposure to traditional, postive, healthy relationships with older adults as they should so self improvement will most likely be a powerful tool for our youth to grow into better adults.

The Highlights:
*even in a relationship you are still an individual responsible for your behavior
*if you don't address your pain you will continue making relationship mistakes
*partner doesn't complete you, could deplete you if you don't address your past pains
*cant look forward while looking back
*if you allow pain your partner will get comfortable with bad behavior
*stop making excuses and start making changes
*strive for greatness of self and in relationship
*learn your worth.... no one can show you that
*set rules and standards and hold firm to them
*can't change or control others
*don't follow someone who doesn't know where they're going
*learn to be alone
*if you have to tell a partner what to do, wear etc... that's not the partner for you
*verbal abuse is still abuse
*love is not fear and control
*never give a partner control of your mind
*decide what is best for you
*if you don't learn what love is, someone will teach you hate and control
* you teach your partner how to treat you by what allow and reinforce
*watch for manipulation by guilt
*partner is not your opponent, it's your teammate to win with
*know and establish your boundaries
*take months to evaluate partner
*hour a day of talk - consistency is the key
*dont be willing to make fake love look real
*dont compromise your own self-worth and respect for partner
*require actions not words
*dont allow coercion by fear
*set the standards for your life and don't lower them
*seek to understand to be understood
*keep your word
*applied knowledge is power
*plan of action to improve yourself
*you're attracting what you are, not what you want
*listen more than you speak
*are you an asset or liability to your partner
*dont reveal your plan. Show who you are don't tell.
*dont be in love with the idea of love without having love
*dont pressure yourself to date. Be 100% happy with yourself
*make changes to yourself to improve your life
*promote, demote, terminate people from your life
*dont get complacent, strive for self improvement

All good advice to hear from the Author Tony Gaskins, life gets so cluttered with the society and culture we live in that sometimes you need a reminder of what mindset to strive for and keep. He spoke of his story and his path to where he is in his life right now. He didn't mention the word courtship - he is younger - but to summarize everything he said in a word - courtship would be it. Learning proper courtship is the key to a healthy long term relationship with the right person. Nowadays this may be called friend zone, but relationships are a serious emotional event in everyone's life and people should take the time to get to know each other without mind games. That was called courtship and it still works to help people get to know each other for the purpose of finding their life partner.

This seminar is either a good introduction to who Tony Gaskins is and a preview of his books - or if you have read his books and social media accounts, the seminar is a great way to get more in depth and ask him questions in person. Even if this information isn't new - it's a good refresher to keep you mentally focused and positive. The biggest take away from the whole seminar was his advice on establishing clear boundries and set standards with your partner, show your partner who you are and what you stand for, and if your partner crosses the line on any of the boundries that you have set; be sure to be prepared to immediately put the consequences in action such as leaving them - this gains respect and right away establishes that you will not be disrespected. A good reminder for those who want to love a bad partner forever no matter how bad they are treated - reminds them that type of behavior is not healthy and should not be tolerated.

Make better choices when choosing a partner, be happy with being alone and work on improving yourself and what you bring to the table. Also, creating a healthy love relationship is a learned behavior, same as learning a job - it really does take some reading, observing, studying, learning and implementing. Tony Gaskins reflects that learning - once you educate yourself, improvement will be contagious in every aspect of your life. Educating yourself on creating a better mindset and  environment within yourself about love, life, work, home and family will make anyone into a happier, healthier and smarter adult. He has books, seminars and classes covering various areas of life improvement in an easy to digest format and language. To learn more about him and his books visit his website TonyGaskins.com #RealLoveTour